According to a recent USA Today ARTICLE this current generation of teens are unrealistically optimistic about being destined for greatness. Many psychologists are concerned that they are set up for unrealistic expectations with the accompanying depression and radically unrealistic view of life in general. I wonder if this is coming from the same psychologists who have encouraged parents for at least 10 years to lavish unrelenting praise on children so that they realize they are worth something and deserve everything.
Here is a VIDEO that will give you an idea of the piece.
I wonder if the church (in general) is not guilty of this same positioning in our homes. How can we expect our children to understand the nature of total depravity (their own sin natures) if we are continually bolstering their sense of worth even in the face of failure?
I’m not saying to hammer your kids (verbally) for doing poorly, but being honest with them and helping them account for their own failures and poor choices is vital for good parenting. Too many parents are just short-sighted and utterly selfish. They look for ways to make peace in their homes for a dozen years or so, having the children leave the “roost” and figure out life later by getting a dose of reality. How is that raising our children in the way they should go? Honestly, I feel that this is tantamount to the parent who has just decided that their kid is going to drink anyway, so they might as well provide the keg and supervise their “inevitable” sin. That’s NOT training a child in the way they should go. That’s managing a kid while they’re in the house, biding time so they can be shuffled out the door to college so the parent can get back to living THEIR life.
Remember this one thing, your role as parent is temporal but has an eternal weight. You are to evangelize and disciple your children so that the ONLY relationship you’ll have with them that IS eternal is a reality… that of brother or sister in Christ. You frankly are not a good steward of your God-given responsibility if you lie to your child by telling them that they are worth God’s love (whether said directly or indirectly it doesn’t matter) and deserve every good thing in this world. Of course there’s balance, but it’s a biblical proportion not a humanistic one.
Al Mohler recently wrote on the subject HERE as well (at the time of posting I’ve not read his article, but trust his viewpoint and judgment).